The Calm Kitchen: Trust Your Intuition

The Calm Kitchen: Trust Your Intuition

My first Calm Kitchen class took place last November in the prep kitchen of a cafe in Dublin. They are well known for their fermented food products and the kitchen was alive with fermenting vinegars and drinks bubbling away on the shelves around us - a perfect environment to talk about slowing down and de-stressing through cooking.

The idea for The Calm Kitchen evolved over the last few years working as a private chef and cooking at yoga and coaching retreats. At these retreats, women were drawn to the kitchen for tea and chats about food.


It was clear that there was a lot of emotion held around food - guilt, shame, anxiety about what they were eating, what foods were good or bad, their bodies and diets, what to cook for their families etc...

We're bombarded with information from the media on the latest miracle-working superfood or scaremongering about the foods that should be avoided at all costs. While we have never watched more cookery shows, or scrolled more food pics on Instagram, there is a lot of anxiety about what we should be eating.

When it comes to eating, I believe that we all know intuitively, deep down in a physical sense, what works for us.  What foods make us feel good, satisfied or nourished. How much we need to eat, at various times of the day, to be at our most energised and productive. This knowledge is stored in our bodies and there are tools that we can use to help us to tune into this intuition.

Using our intuition is about accessing our gut feeling, instead of our brain.  

Our brain might tell us that we should eat X number of calories per day, or that we shouldn't eat past a certain time. But our body signals to us how much food we really need, when, and what would feel good to eat at particular times. This is the concept of Intuitive Eating, and I introduce this as an anti-diet approach to eating in my classes.

Intuitive Eating is characterised by having a strong connection with your body's hunger and fullness signals, rather than on external or emotional cues. It recognises that foods serve a variety of purposes in our lives (taste, energy, comfort and joy) that are dependent on the context and situation. In their book, Intuitive Eating, Tribole and Resch identified the ten principles of Intuitive Eating:

  1. Reject the diet mentality

  2. Honour your hunger

  3. Make peace with food

  4. Challenge the food police

  5. Feel your fullness

  6. Finding the satisfaction factor (and mindful eating)

  7. Honour your feelings without food

  8. Respect your body

  9. Exercise - feel the difference

  10. Honour your health with gentle nutrition.

When I learned about the concept of Intuitive Eating it made a lot of sense to me. It acknowledges that every body is individual with different dietary needs. Research has shown that diets don't work (it's estimated that over 20% of participants who complete weight management interventions maintain weight loss past 1 year).

"Biologically, your body experiences the dieting process as a form of starvation.  Your cells don't know you are voluntarily restricting your food intake. You body shifts into primal survival mode - metabolism shuts down and food cravings escalate.  And with each diet, the body learns and adapts, resulting in rebounding wight gain.
Consequently, many of our patients feel like they are a failure - but it is dieting that has failed them."

- Tribole and Resch, Intuitive Eating

So, digging into the principles of Intuitive Eating has given me a new perspective on having a peaceful relationship with food. Because for me, that is the point. It goes beyond what we cook or eat. Diet culture is so seeped into our brains that the mental calculations of what we should or shouldn't eat are par for the course.  It takes up space in our brain that could be used in more fulfilling and enjoyable, ways.

Food shouldn't be our enemy, but there is work to do to deconstruct the diet mentality and fear around food that abounds in our culture.  

I'm starting a new column here called 'The Calm Kitchen' which will be digging deeper into what I teach in my classes - Intuitive Eating principles and how we can apply them to our lives. I'd love to hear from you on this, if it's something that you've heard of or tried, or if would like to learn more?  Let me know!

New Autumn Class: The Calm Kitchen

New Autumn Class: The Calm Kitchen